High performers have usually gotten to where they are because their fierce inner critic has been so effective at cracking the whip. Sometimes people want to hold on to the voice of their self saboteur because it has driven their relentless work ethic. There’s a really big downside to this externally motivated strategy though: STRESS.
When we let our self saboteur direct our lives we endure a lot of self judgement, fear of failure, guilt about undeserved praise and anxiety about being found out as an imposter. We end up driving ourselves to exhaustion and making ourselves miserable in an effort to uphold our self-image.
Stress is particularly toxic when we reach midlife because hormones like cortisol will create issues with sleep, fatigue, weight gain, cravings and an appetite that feels out of control. Add a relentless inner critic to a time when life is often at its most challenging and we have a prime reason why we end up with weight around the waist that we can’t seem to shake.
The fix is using a core value to lead you instead. Connecting to the intrinsic reason of your “why” is strong motivation that nobody can ever take away from you.