Happy Monday,

Ever had a set-back en route to some really important goal? Was it painful? Did you beat yourself up over it? Or did you abandon the goal altogether perhaps?

I see it every day in the coach’s chair-the pain of falling off track with one’s goals is enough to trigger self-sabotaging behaviour in the best of us.

The problem is that most of us interpret setbacks as failure, and the second that belief system gets fired in the brain, we typically respond by beating ourselves up mentally.

Think about that for a second…how is beating yourself up going to help you get back up, dust yourself off and quickly recover?

Mental toughness is not measured by whether or not you get knocked off track with achieving your goals (expect it my high-performance friend. Life WILL knock you on your butt every now and then). It is measured by how quickly you recover after you do.

In today’s ‘MoMonday Video: How to Use Pain to Grow (click here to watch),’ I show you how to use set-backs as catalysts for change.

High-performance thinkers train their brain’s on how to respond quickly when the pain of a set-back sets in. They look at that pain as an opportunity for growth by asking themselves that really important key question:


Pain can be powerful leverage for the brain, motivating you to make important changes in your life. But only if you choose to frame it that way.


I challenge you to change it up this week. Notice the moments of set-back and the pain of the disappointment that comes with it. Then stop yourself and reach for this powerful question. Use this powerful reframe. And go after that feedback. Look for the opportunities for growth. The more you look, I promise, the more you will find.

Until next time, make every performance count!

-Coach Susan

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