I have a client who came into my office today exhibiting signs of what I like to call the ‘never enough’ pattern-one of the most popular self-sabotaging patterns amongst my high-performance clientele.
She came into my office, sat down across from me and immediately started railroading through all the good things that she had managed to accomplish that previous week (in less than 15 seconds, I kid you not). What she landed upon and proceeded to focus on was where she had “failed.”
She spent the majority of her recount of the previous week’s events focused on where she had stumbled (this part of the story was at least 5 minutes). What was most interesting to me was the fact that she had fallen just inches from the finish line. What a victory in and of itself? She had almost made it to the finish line!
With so many victories leading up to that moment of setback, why was it that she was choosing to focus on the thing that threatened to steal her well-earned self-confidence?
In today’s MoMonday Video: The ‘Never Enough’ Pattern (click here to watch), I explore this classic pattern. While it is the most popular pattern amongst high-achiever types, it is definitely one of the most self-sabotaging ones out there when it comes to motivation.
If it’s the most common amongst high-achievers, then how could it be self-sabotaging you ask? It’s simple my high-performance friend-it is not a sustainable pattern for success.
Focusing on where you’re not enough or it’s not enough depletes your confidence and self-esteem over the long haul. And believe me when I tell you that the achievement of your high-performance goals depends on the sustainability of your confidence and self-esteem.
The better and more high-performance strategy for success is to instead, make it a habit to connect with where you are already doing a great job. In other words, connect with those victories along the way-proof of where it is already good enough.
Focusing on the victories creates mental building blocks for your confidence. And trust me when I tell you, there is nothing more important when it comes to the sustainability of your motivation in the long run.
Until next time, make every performance count!